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Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On -- Together or Apart epub

by Kristina Coop Gordon,Douglas K. Snyder


Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On -- Together or Apart epub

ISBN: 157230801X

ISBN13: 978-1572308015

Author: Kristina Coop Gordon,Douglas K. Snyder

Category: Other

Subcategory: Medicine & Health Sciences

Language: English

Publisher: The Guilford Press; 1st edition (January 6, 2007)

Pages: 342 pages

ePUB book: 1194 kb

FB2 book: 1406 kb

Rating: 4.2

Votes: 561

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Whether you want to end the relationship or piece things back together, Getting Past the Affair guides you through the initial trauma so you can understand what happened and why before deciding how to move forward. If you stay with your spouse, you’ll find realistic tips for rebuilding your marriage and restoring trust.

Getting Past the Affair book. Whether you want to end the relationship or piece things back together, Getting Past the Affair guides you through the initial trauma so Discovering that a partner has been unfaithful hits you like an earthquake. Long after the first jolt, emotional aftershocks can make it difficult to be there for your family, manage your daily life, and think clearly about your options.

Kristina Coop Gordon, PhD, is Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology at the University of Tennessee. I had first read After the Affair by Janice Spring. I found this book, Getting Past, was much more practical and down to earth

Kristina Coop Gordon, PhD, is Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology at the University of Tennessee. I found this book, Getting Past, was much more practical and down to earth.

Getting Past the Affair helps them overcome the initial shock, understand . Douglas K. Snyder, PhD, is Professor of Psychology and Director of Clinical Training at Texas A&M University.

Getting Past the Affair helps them overcome the initial shock, understand what happened and why, and think clearly about their best interests before they ac. The book is and excellent how to book dealing with the hurts of the affair and how to handle the very strong emotions that accompany the discovery of the affair by the nonparticipant.

This is a book to definitely recommend to anyone dealing with an affair.

According to these authors, 20% of men and 10% of women engage in sexual infidelity at some point in their lives. The three parts of the book outline very practical strategies and exercises for how to cope. This is a book to definitely recommend to anyone dealing with an affair. PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2012 APA, all rights reserved). Do you want to read the rest of this article? Request full-text.

Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On - Together or Apart

Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On - Together or Apart. Written by Douglas K. Snyder, P. Donald H. Baucom, P. and Kristina Coop Gordon, P. Narrated by Coleen Marlo. Whether you want to end the relationship or piece things back together, Getting Past the Affair guides you through the initial trauma so you can understand what happened and why before deciding how to move forward.

Getting Past the Affair' helps them overcome the initial shock, understand what happened and why, and think . Not so clinical like many others and helps with both parties to heal together. I bought three books and I find this one the best so far. 0. Report. Help is here! By Thriftbooks.

Not so clinical like many others and helps with both parties to heal together. com User, June 12, 2007. I highly recommend this book for anyone trying to live through infidelity. I have read several books and this one had so much helpful information. It was written in a way that didn't attack the participating party or the injured party but gave good information for all parties involved.

Getting Past the Affair. A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On - Together or Apart. After the Affair is the only book to offer proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship. By: Kristina Coop Gordon PhD, Douglas K. Snyder PhD, Donald H. Baucom PhD. Narrated by: Coleen Marlo. Really helped deal during first 30days. Books related to Getting Past the Affair. Rate it . You Rated it .

Discovering that a partner has been unfaithful hits you like an earthquake. Long after the first jolt, emotional aftershocks can make it difficult to be there for your family, manage your daily life, and think clearly about your options. Whether you want to end the relationship or piece things back together, Getting Past the Affair guides you through the initial trauma so you can understand what happened and why before deciding how to move forward. Based on the only program that’s been tested--and proven--to relieve destructive emotions in the wake of infidelity, this compassionate book offers support and expert advice from a team of award-winning couple therapists. If you stay with your spouse, you’ll find realistic tips for rebuilding your marriage and restoring trust. But no matter which path you choose, you’ll discover effective ways to recover personally, avoid lasting scars, and pursue healthier relationships in the future.Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies (ABCT) Self-Help Book of Merit

Unfortunately I had reason to purchase this book. I had first read After the Affair by Janice Spring. I found this book , Getting Past , was much more practical and down to earth. It had many very helpful concrete suggestions for the different stages and it addresses more than just the hurt and pain that the "betrayed" person feels.

There have been some reviews complaining that this book goes too easy on the person who had the affair and that is let's him/her "off too easy". I really do not feel this book does that at all. What it does is asks both partners to look at their parts in what went wrong with the relationship that contributed towards the affair.
BELIEVE ME, I see no justification for one person to step outside of a committed relationship and seek emotional or sexual connections with an outside person AND, I also believe that regardless of my contributions that led to unhappiness and misunderstandings in our relationship that I did NOT cause the affair to happen and it is NOT my fault it did. It was my partner who chose to seek an outside person due to his unhappiness rather than share that unhappiness with me.
But the value of this book is very important in that it is helping me see more clearly past my pain and to is helping me see more clearly what I do want to happen down the road with us .

AND the more important part is that although my partner is a wonderful person in that he is WILLING to read any book I push at him, and he did read most of After the Affair and a few others, this book has been so much more helpful to him and some of that is due to the way the authors speak in a less BLAMING tone towards the person who had the affair.

Believe me, they do not let ANYONE off the hook but this book does use language that is less one sided and blaming and does try to get BOTH sides to look more closely at what the long term goal is and how not only to get there but the things to do that would prevent a couple from getting there and creating a new relationship.

I am sure I am not as clear as I would like to be in my review but these past 3 months have not been a period of time of mental clarity for me. :-/ I do hope that if one is trying to recover from the pain of an affair or a series of affairs, that one tries out this book.
My only regret is I did not purchase this one first !! I think it would have helped me see a few things more clearly and my partner would have felt more invested in reading .
Good luck !!!
This was recommended by our counselor. It would've been better if this book were not so broad based. It's intended for therapeutic use, but because it attempts to be all inclusive, it over reaches and isn't as good as it could be. It's like prescribing a appendectomy for everyone who has a stomachache.
The person who cheats is motivated differently based on gender and the person who was cheated on reacts differently based on their gender. This book tries to treat all four persons with one volume.
I'm still reading this. It is an excellent book regardless of what side of the affair you are on. Makes you stop and take a good hard look at many things.
Very thorough and well thought out book. Really touches on the reality of all of the intricacies that go into an affair. I would recommend this book to anyone going through this situation, whether you are still trying to work on the relationship together, apart or even if you are an individual trying to heal from it on your own. I believe that you will find this book a useful tool.
Luckily, we stayed together. We both read this helpful guide and discussed what we read. I believe both parties, if sincerely interested in healing together and rebuilding their relationship, should read this book.
Great
Very balanced information to help a spouse determine whether to leave or stay. I felt it gave excellent examples how couples worked through their situation. The ultimate decision of whether to leave or stay is determined by the reader.
ok info..